Mother-of-the-Bride Dresses: What to Wear (and How to Feel Wonderful)

Traditional wedding advice once placed strict limits on what the mothers of the couple could wear. Today, the approach is more relaxed – colour is an opportunity to complement the wedding rather than follow a rigid set of rules.

Start by asking whether the couple has a colour palette in mind. You do not need to match the bridal party, but choosing a shade that sits comfortably alongside their colours can create a balanced look in photographs. If the attendants are wearing soft blue, for example, navy, teal, silver or berry may coordinate without appearing identical.

Jewel tones bring depth to evening weddings, while botanical prints, ocean blues, coral, sage and soft metallics work beautifully for spring and summer. Darker shades can still suit warm-weather events when the fabric is light and the silhouette feels airy.

White, ivory and very pale champagne are generally best avoided unless the couple has encouraged them. Black is now widely accepted, particularly for evening celebrations – add colour through jewellery, shoes or a wrap if you would like to soften the overall effect.

The most important test is simple: does the colour brighten your complexion and make you want to stand taller? Trends can guide you, but confidence will always photograph better than a shade chosen purely because it is fashionable.

Comfort is not the opposite of elegance. In fact, the styles that look most polished are often the ones that allow you to move naturally and forget about constant adjustments.

Breathable fabrics are especially valuable for spring and summer weddings. Look for soft drape, light layers and enough movement through the skirt to sit, walk and dance comfortably. Sleeves can provide coverage without heaviness when they are made from chiffon, lace or a loose woven fabric.

Consider the whole schedule before settling on a length. A sweeping maxi may feel right for a ballroom, while a midi dress can be practical for lawns, beaches or venues with stairs. A defined waist, gentle ruching or an elegant V-neckline can add shape without making the style feel restrictive.

Our mature event wear collection brings together polished options chosen with real celebrations in mind – including flattering lengths, wearable sleeves and silhouettes that do not rely on stiff structure.

It is also wise to sit down, lift your arms and walk around while trying on your outfit. A dress can look perfect in front of a mirror but feel quite different once you move. The right choice should support you through hugs, speeches, photographs and a long lunch without demanding your attention.

Accessories should complete your outfit rather than compete with it. Once your dress has been chosen, decide which feature deserves emphasis. A bold print may need little more than simple earrings and a sleek clutch, while a plain dress can carry a statement necklace, textured wrap or sculptural shoe.

Choose shoes according to the venue as well as the outfit. Block heels, wedges and refined flats offer stability for outdoor ceremonies – particularly on grass or uneven paths. If you enjoy a higher heel, consider bringing a second pair for dancing.

A lightweight wrap or jacket is useful even in warmer months, as evening temperatures can shift quickly. Select one that works with the colour and neckline of your dress so it feels like part of the look rather than an afterthought.

The Event Edit is a useful place to bring the elements together, while our broader collection of event dresses offers options for everything from relaxed coastal ceremonies to formal evening receptions.